What It Means to “Take Flight” as We Age
I am spending New Year’s Eve with friends in Baton Rouge, soaking up much-needed Cajun and Creole vibes. This trip to the bayou was long overdue, and I’ve relished my time reconnecting with friends whose DNA ties them to Acadia.
As part of my annual tradition, I’ll write down my challenges and worries from 2024 on a piece of paper—the struggles, regrets, and loose ends I’m ready to release. Then, just before midnight, I’ll burn the piece of paper, releasing them to the universe and allowing myself the space to start fresh in 2025.
This ritual isn’t about pretending my problems will disappear come January 1. Many of them will still be there next week. Instead, it’s about letting go, if only for a moment, and allowing myself the space to focus on possibility. Of course, there will be black-eyed peas, turnip greens, ham, and cornbread—a Southern tradition for good luck and prosperity in the new year.
As I reflect on this year and the year to come, I’m struck by a photograph I took of a flock of snow geese in motion. It may be the best photograph I’ve ever taken. The image captures their collective rise, their shared movement toward an unknown destination. Yet, in the corner of the frame, one little bird is staying grounded, choosing not to take flight just yet. I find myself drawn to that bird, its stillness a powerful counterpoint to the action above. It reminds me that there’s a time to fly and a time to pause, to reflect, and to gather strength for the journey ahead.
Letting Go: The Quiet Power of Release
Before birds take off, there’s often a moment of stillness. Their necks stretch out, and they are testing the winds, trying to determine when to make their move. That’s where many of us find ourselves at this time of year—a pause, a chance to reflect on what we’re ready to leave behind. Letting go doesn’t need to be dramatic. It can be as simple as acknowledging what no longer serves us and deciding to release it.
Think of a bird shedding feathers to make room for new growth. Similarly, we can release outdated habits, roles, or even expectations that hold us back. Maybe it’s self-doubt or the weight of trying to please everyone. Whatever it is, this is your moment to create space for something new.
Try this:
Take a few minutes to write down one thing you’re ready to release. Then ask yourself, “What am I making room for?” You might not have the answer yet, and that’s okay. Trust that clarity will come in time.
Finding Your Wings: What Lights You Up?
One of the most liberating aspects of this stage of life is the freedom to rediscover what truly brings us joy. After years of prioritizing others—children, careers, partners—it’s easy to lose sight of what makes us feel alive. But now, there’s an opportunity to reclaim that.
When I look at the birds in my photograph, I’m struck by their sense of purpose. Each one moves with intention, yet they’re part of something greater. What’s your purpose now? Perhaps it’s a dream you’ve set aside, a passion you’ve yet to explore, or simply the joy of discovering yourself anew.
Try this:
Make a list of five things that spark your curiosity. Pick one and dedicate the next month to exploring it—without expectations, just for the joy of the process. Whether it’s photography, volunteering, or learning a new skill, give yourself permission to follow your interests.
The Power of Connection: Soaring Together
Birds rarely fly alone. They find strength and direction in their flock, supporting one another on the journey. In the same way, our connections—with friends, family, or even communities we’ve yet to meet—can provide the support we need to navigate life’s transitions.
Recently, I spoke with a reader who shared that she’d spent the past year focused on family and travel rather than personal reinvention. I told her that was wonderful. Reinvention isn’t mandatory; it’s an option. What matters most is that you feel fulfilled. When ready for a new chapter, connection often serves as the spark. I will be there to help.
Try this:
Reach out to someone in your life this week—a friend, neighbor, or even an online community. Share your dreams or listen to theirs. Connection often sparks clarity.
Embracing the Messiness of Transformation
Transformation is rarely a straight line. It’s messy, unpredictable, and often uncomfortable. You might feel hopeful one day, but uncertainty creeps in the next. But that’s part of the process. Growth often comes from life’s questions—questions about patience, resilience, or the courage to embrace change.
I’ve learned to see these moments not as obstacles but as opportunities to step into my power. When I look at the photograph of the birds, I’m reminded that even in their seemingly chaotic motion, there’s a grace and purpose to their flight.
Try this:
Think about one “question” life is asking you right now. Write it down and consider one small action you can take in response. It could be as simple as signing up for a class, calling a friend, or taking a walk to clear your mind. Every step forward counts.
Choosing Your Perspective: The Freedom to Soar
Perhaps the greatest lesson of this stage of life is that while we can’t always control what happens, we can control how we respond. This is the difference between feeling stuck and finding freedom.
When I see the birds taking flight, I’m reminded that they’re choosing to rise, trust their wings, and move forward. As we age, we have that same choice. We can see this stage as an end or as a new beginning. I choose to see it as a chance to soar.
Try this:
Create a personal mantra for the year ahead that resonates deeply with you. It could be as simple as “I choose to rise” or “This is my time.” Write it down and place it somewhere you’ll see it daily. Let it remind you of your power and potential.
The Bottom Line: Embracing Your Flight
As we begin this new year, think of the birds in flight—their grace, strength, and freedom. Let them inspire you to embrace your journey. Whether you’re starting something new, deepening what you already love, or simply savoring the life you’ve created, the choice is yours.
This year isn’t about rushing or forcing change. It’s about finding your rhythm, your purpose, and your joy. So spread your wings. Take flight. The sky is wide open.